You know what this blog needs at the end of the calendar year? A meme! (Actually, what this blogger needs, lacking in writerly inspiration as I am.)
(Pilfered the idea from blue milk)
1.What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?
Baked mince pies.
2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don’t really do resolutions. I think last year I wanted to be kinder and listen better. It’s an ongoing project.
I’ve been thinking about what I resolve this time around. Learning to do intuitive eating properly is a big goal, for me.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes! Actually, a few friends added to their families this year.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
5. What countries did you visit?
This one, and not much of it!
6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
Good health. Perhaps a little more paid work.
7. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
6th February, because that is the day that Ferris died. 7th February (Black Saturday) because of the fear and the horror and all that followed. 24-27th December because Christmas was such a lovely time this year, for Bean especially.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Wrangling with depression again and coming out on top.
9. What was your biggest failure?:
Not having the organised homely-home I wanted. Procrastination.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?:
Several colds and deathly gastro brought home from childcare courtesy of Bean. Physically, a couple of bumps and scrapes and aches and pains but nothing as serious as the year before. Mentally, I’ve been sicker. And healthier.
11. What was the best thing you bought?:(was bought for you)
My shiny new iPod touch, for my birthday. Best that I bought: photo frames, for our loungeroom.
12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
Little Bean! She has been such a delight. In toddlerdom, she’s in her element. All that activity and curiosity which made her a tired and overwrought baby has made her a fun playmate and she grows in confidence every day so life is suddenly less angst-filled. Plus, she’s compliant and obedient for her age, for which I am abundantly grateful.
13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
Loutish young men: the ones who live next door and keep us up all hours, and their friends.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Children’s clothes and toys and entertainment (Bean seemed to outgrow everything she owned in 2008 by about February). And all the boring things like car registration and insurance. And chocolate.
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Not enough. Need more joy.
16. What songs will always remind you of 2009?
Everything Playschool (Bean is obsessed). ‘Big Jumps’ by Emiliana Torrini. Bertie Blackman’s album, which seems to always be on rotation in my car.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
i) …happier or sadder?
ii) thinner or fatter?
iii) richer or poorer?
Hard to say. Same old same old.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Writing. I had thought to write some short stories but even just finding time for an unplanned blog-rant can be hard. And I’m lazy, and watch too much television.
Seeing friends. I’m good at picking up the phone, not always so great at arranging the face time.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Watching television. Complaining. Standing in the queue at the supermarket. Looking for things I’ve lost in my poorly organised house.
20. How did you spend Christmas?:
We had a lovely festive time. Christmas Eve at our place with my family: cocktails, seafood and carols. Christmas day watching Bean delight in her new things and lesiurely eating pancakes until it was time to see the in-laws for dinner. More delighting, more leisurely eating and drinking. Boxing day visiting Bean’s grandma for more unwrapping and eating of leftover ham. The next day at the beach. Bean learned to say ‘Pappa’ and ‘Nanna’ and she is so at ease with extended family now, it’s lovely. She has been calling out ‘bye Nanna!’ ‘bye Pappa!’ for days now, which I suppose means she misses them.
22. Did you fall in love in 2009?
I’m always falling in love.
23. How many one night stands?
24. What were your favourite TV programs?
Torchwood, The Wire, Dexter, The Sopranos, Mad Men.
25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
26. What was the best book you read?
Geraldine Brooks’ People of the Book.
27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
That one’s tricky. It hasn’t been much of a discovery type of year. Perhaps Mumford and Sons. Florence and the Machine.
28. What did you want and get?
More peace. More calm. More cuddles.
29. What did you want and not get?
Coffee with my brother.
30. What was your favourite film of this year?
Up! (I need to get out more.)
31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 31 this year. I woke up to a little cherub holding a pile of presents saying ‘Mummy!’ which was pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to me. And then I took her to the zoo, and she screamed so we went home. Dinner at the local pub with a kids play area. Quiet, sedate. There might be more celebrating after everyone has recovered from Christmas.
32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Lots more money: to hire a housecleaner, and enable a us to holiday nicely and pay a babysitter now and then.
33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?
Fashion? Moi? It’s not been a good year. Jeans, tshirt, sneakers. I’m in a rut and look like I shop at Target. Because I do. Sigh.
34. What kept you sane?
Naptime. For watching TV, drinking tea, sleeping, tweeting. That and my meds and the psychologist.
35.Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
36. What political issue stirred you the most?
Asylum seekers, homebirth rights, maternity leave, same-sex marriage. Reading about the healthcare debate in the US was pretty, um, stirring.
37. Who did you miss?
My dad, always. My dog. Friends living far away.
38. Who was the best new person you met?
No one from this year that stands out. But I have a friendship formed the year before which strengthened very much. Other-mother friends are the best.
39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009
Love is a verb.
40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:
I’m going to make it through this year if it kills me (!)
41. What was your favorite moment of the year?
There are several. One watching my daughter sleep on her father’s chest. One the morning of my birthday.
One the day after Boxing Day, sitting on the beach watching my daughter standing at the shore holding her father’s and grandfather’s hands. Seeing how the shoulders of those two men sloped in the same way, and how their hands held her equally safely and tenderly. Sitting on the sand and crying because I am so happy for her, to be so blessed.
42. What was your least favourite moment of the year?
Everything between about the 5th of February to the 12th was horrible.
43. If you could go back in time to any moment of 2009 and change what?
I don’t even know how to answer that question. I think because I don’t tend to dwell on the should-have could-have beens – I spend enough time being anxious as it is!
44. What are your plans for 2010?
Set up Bean’s big-girl room. Graduate from beginner’s spin to a mainstream class. Come to some sort of decision about what kind of part time work I could do and when and perhaps do something about that. I will study, in some capacity, as I always do. Keep on writing. Try to take things more lightly. Play.
Count my blessings.