Almost six weeks ago something terrible happened to a friend. Her baby daughter died.
Even though I haven’t known this friend for very long, the nature of her loss was such that it had me reeling for days. I wept about it. My husband and I talked late into the nights about what had happened, and had to fight urges to wake our Little Bean just to hug her. I had understood grief before but this was beyond the edges of my knowing.
Even though the stillbirth of Lola has occupied so many of my thoughts I haven’t mentioned it on my blog. It isn’t my story to tell. But her mother, Kristalee, is telling it in her own words here. Her strength and honesty floor me every time I visit the site. The birth story of her daughter is so raw and beautiful. If you want to know about the courage of women, and men, and love, and humanity, it’s all there.
3 Comments
June 17, 2009 at 1:58 am
Thank you for posting these links. Kristalee’s birth story is, as you say, beautiful as well as raw and her loss has been in my mind since you mentioned it via Twitter. Your linking to her blog has given me the chance to give her a long-distance virtual hug, and the love and goodness in her words reminds us how human goodness and beauty exist even in the worst situations.
I’m sorry i have hardly been in evidence for a few months; hoping i’m ‘back’ now (ish). Nearly, that is. Chanced upon this post – which i suspect was something better than pure chance. I am resolved to try n catch up with all the online friends i’ve neglected.
July 14, 2009 at 10:43 pm
Hi,
I am new to your blog. First time here. Had read your comment on CK’s page and came for a visit. I am so sorry to hear about your friend who lost a child. I, too have a friend who lost a child not that many months ago. I am giving you a link to their story. It might help your friend.
http://www.facebook.com/ext/share.php?sid=43424618325&h=f_MfC&u=uOMG4
The difficult part for me as that 20 years ago, I had a son, born under the EXACT circumstances under which my friend’s baby died. I remember my midwife saying “Yvonne, thank God for that baby. You should not have him. He should not have made it.” I always thought I was grateful for my son’s life. Yet it never impacted me so deeply and painfully till Nathan’s story…
I wish you well. I pray for your friends comfort. Love is all the helps in times as these.
August 10, 2009 at 11:39 am
This is ridiculously late of me, but thank you mand and Yvonne. I appreciate your thoughts and my friend is grateful to those who can offer hope through sharing their own experiences.